Don’t worry, it happens to each and every one of us. We meet a wo/man, who seems into us, and then, just as we are about to reciprocate they FLAKE. Ugh… our hearts drop. What happened? What went wrong? There is no fail-safe method to preventing this, but there are some tried and true tips to help stave-off the dreaded flake out.
Here we go.
1. S/he asks you out and does not follow through within a reasonable amount of time. There is not much point in asking someone out and not taking action for several weeks. You can expect this kind of behavior in the future.
2. S/he says they'll call and doesn't. If you don't enjoy repeatedly waiting for the phone to ring why put up with it?
3. S/he comes on strong and then as fast as they came on they’re gone. Don’t waste your time with someone who is waffling you deserve to have someone that’s consistent.
When you meet someone you find appealing, always keep in mind that chemistry is simply one element in your assessment process to help determine whether they are partner material. Don’t compromise your values with flakes when dating, apply the 50/50 rule:
• Equally Interested
• Equally Engaged
• Equally Giving
• Equally Attracted
• Equally Concerned About the Growth of the Relationship
In a new relationship there is absolutely no reason to compromise and cross the 50% line. Remember you are the “chooser.” Bring reason into the equation. Take things slow and steady. A relationship is not a race, and indeed running this race too quickly may mean starting all over again because you didn’t take the necessary time to thoroughly screen your partner.
Your ideal partner is your equal and should not be idealized or put on a pedestal. You deserve an amazing mate. Don’t forget it. And don’t forget how amazing you are, with all you have to offer a partner.
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