If they are stupid enough to walk away, be wise enough to let them go…

You will save yourself a lot of heartache.
You will maintain a sense of dignity.
You will both be better off.

Letting go. It is difficult for us in so many ways and on so many levels (just ask me - it's been a big lesson of mine). Yet, life calls upon us to do it, over and over again. Letting go is part of our growth process. We cannot move on to the new while continuing to cling to the old.

There come times, in the context of love and romance, when we must learn to let go. Maybe the relationship was not meant to be: perhaps it was hurtful to us, or perhaps it was hindering the personal growth of one or both partners. In this case, even when there may still be feelings of passion, or attraction, or just the comfort of the familiar, we must be strong in letting go of something that is unhealthy for us. …

So, how do we do it? Letting go of a relationship involves letting go of:

1. It has to be a clean break. Don’t tell yourself you’re going to call him one last time or give it just one more try. Don’t keep calling up friends and asking them if he’s already seeing someone new or if she’s as depressed as you are. If you are serious about letting go of your relationship you have to carve out a new existence, one that has no room for the old.
   
2. Don’t dwell on what might-have-been. Letting go of a relationship involves recognizing that it was not meant to be and that you have to set new goals and build new dreams. Avoid having unrealistic expectations or hopes that you may get back together. Or that he would change and perhaps become the person you want him to be or your problems will just get sorted out. Realize that the relationship has run its course and it is time to let go.
   
3. Fear. If you want to truly let go of a relationship, you have to forget your apprehensions and worries about being alone and how you’ll cope. And you also have to learn to trust again. Not just someone else but also yourself and your instincts. One, two or even more broken relationships doesn’t mean that we should close ourselves off from loving again.

When you are ready to let go of a relationship and reconcile yourself to keeping the past in the past, you will experience an enormous weight being lifted off your shoulders and a sense of accomplishment (ask me again ;-) that you have come out of the whole experience a much stronger person. Yhea!!!