Are You Ready to Meet Your True Love?

Take the Relationship Readiness Quiz?

To assess your readiness for a committed relationship, rate yourself in each of the following ten areas. Try to be objective and honest with yourself.

Rating Scale: Rate each item on a scale from 0 to 10

8-10: Good; this area of my life is strong and would be an asset to my next relationship

5-7: OK; this area needs work, but most likely would not sabotage my next relationship

0-4: Needs Work; this area could interfere with the success of my next relationship

1. I know what I wantI have a clear vision for my relationship. I can envision my perfect relationship in rich detail that feels strong,very real and keeps me motivated.
2. I know my requirements. I have a written list of at least ten non-negotiable requirements that I use for screening potential partners. I am clear that if any are missing, a relationship will not work for me.
3. I am happy and successful being single. I enjoy my life, my work, my family, my friends and my own company. I am living the life that I want and I am not seeking a relationship out of desperation and need.
4. I am satisfied with my work/career. My work is fulfilling, supports my lifestyle and does not interfere with my availability to build a new relationship.
5. I am ready and available for commitment. I have no emotional or legal baggage from a previous relationship. My schedule, commitments and lifestyle allow my availability to build a new relationship.
6. I am healthy in mind, body and spirit. My physical, mental or emotional health does not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. I am reasonably happy and feel good.
7. My financial and legal business is handled. I have no financial or legal issues that would interfere with having the life and the relationship I want.
8. My family relationships are functional. My relationship with my children, ex, siblings, parents and extended family do not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want.
9. I have effective dating skills. I initiate contact with people I want to meet and disengage from people who are not a match for me. I keep my physical and emotional boundaries and balance my heart with my head with potential partners.
10. I have effective relationship skills. I understand relationships, can maintain closeness and intimacy, communicate authentically and assertivelynegotiate differences positively, allow myself to trust and be vulnerable and can give and receive love withoutemotional barriers.

Score Results:

80 - 100: Green Light You are well on your way to the life and the relationship you really want. 50 - 79: Yellow Light Continue to work on the areas needed and take it slow in relationships whole doing so. 0 - 49: Red Light Take a break from seeking a partner, focus on your life and prepare for the relationship you really want

10 Ways To Increase Your Chances of Meeting Mr or Mrs Right

More people are single today than at any other time in history: Since 1960 the divorce rate has tripled, with over half the marriages ending in divorce. The overwhelming majority of single people desire a successful relationship and fear a failed one. The old ways of dating and partnering are clearly obsolete - they simply DON'T WORK!
By using the 10 principles below, singles become 'Conscious Daters' and have a much greater likelihood of meeting the person of their dreams.

1. Know who you are and what you want - Endeavoring to partner when you don't know who you are or what you want is like trying to find the match to a pair of shoes you haven't seen yet.
2. Learn how to get what you want - Learn information, tools, and skills you will need to find your true love. Develop creative strategies and action plans. Don't leave things to chance.
3. Be the Chooser - Take initiative and responsibility for your outcomes. Don't react to what, or who, chooses you. Seek to create what you want in your life
4. Balance your heart with your head- Make your relationship choices consciously. It's still exciting!
5. Be ready and available for commitment - Know the difference between dating for fun and dating for partnering. Complete business from any old relationships before dating seriously.
6. Use the Law Of Attraction - Become the kind of person you want to attract by developing yourself and living the life that you want. Do you have the traits you desire in a partner?
7. Gain relationship knowledge and skills - Prepare for the love of your life by learning how relationships work, improving your relationship skills, and deepening your relationships with your family, friends, and colleagues. Date for fun and practice. Take relationship classes and workshops. Get coaching.
8. Create a support community - Isolated singles become lonely in their relationships when they focus on a partner to meet all their social and emotional needs. Having a strong community of friends is the best indication that you are ready for serious dating.
9. Practice assertiveness - Ask for what you want and say no to what you don't want with equal zeal.
10. Be a Successful Single - Don't put your life on hold waiting for a relationship to happen. The best way to find your life partner is to be a happy, successful single person living the life that you really want.

adapted from the Relationship Coaching Institute

Planning For Your Perfect Relationship

Most of us seem to stumble into relationships and marriage, and then continue to sort of make it up as we go along. It's been my personal and coaching experience that relationships take much more conscious planning to be successful. I would say, "Most people don't plan to fail, they just fail to plan." Sadly, but true, most people spend more time planning for a one week vacation than they’ll ever do when it comes to their relationships.

By learning how to plan now, when you are single, for what you want most in a mate…

• You might not settle.
• You might not select the same type of person you have in the past.
• You might not sacrifice your vision or edit your dreams just so that you can slot yourself into someone else’s plan for life.
• You might not do a lot of things.

A relationship plan is basically a system that you define for you and your life. It’s based upon the vision for your life, your values, and what you want most in a mate. It’s about deeply understanding yourself and what makes you happy and then defining those things that you’re seeking in a relationship and with another person.

Planning your relationship vision, prioritizing your top values, and the top values you most treasure in a relationship takes time. Think about how much time people spend planning their wedding day – one single day out of a lifetime. Some people spend 6 months, a year, or even longer. And look at the outcome ~ a divorce rate that exceeds 50% for first marriages and even higher for the second and third ones. Imagine what might be possible if that time and energy would have been invested in gaining more self-awareness, getting to really know their partner, and planning a successful future together beyond the one day reserved for a marriage or commitment ceremony? If you want to have a successful relationship, try a better method; learn more about dating and relating so you can move in a new direction. It’s time to make some changes. The sooner you start, the faster you’ll be enjoying the life that you want and deserve. Get started, create your dating plan, and claim your success!