Single and Sick & Tired of It?

There’s nothing wrong with being single, but if you've reached the point of saying, "what the heck, why am I still single?" you may want to check this list to see if there's anything that's standing in your way of finding your true love:

• First, begin by looking at your past relationships. Why didn't they work? Look at things honestly and learn from your mistakes and;
• Let go of your baggage! Make sure you have resolved all issues from the previous relationship. Allow some time after the end of a relationship to fully recover before moving on to someone new. Too often people will jump into the dating scene too quickly, without allowing time for all the lessons you learned in the previous partnership to come through. Take several months off from dating to give yourself some perspective.
• Be your true self. Your true self is who you are when you have no fear of judgment. Your false self is who you are when you have a social mask on to please everyone else — and it doesn't work if you're looking for a lasting relationship. Give yourself permission to be your true awesome self.
• Change your internal dialogue — You may be programming yourself for failure with negative thoughts. For example, if you call yourself a "loser magnet" while waiting for a new date to show up, you're starting off with a negative message. Take notice of your internal dialogue, which you may not even be conscious of, can be destructive.
• A common mistake many singles make is they try to change themselves for the person they are dating. When you do that, you're not being true to who you are, and it will bite you in the rear. If what you're doing isn't working, change it. Do something different. Don't be someone you're not, but have a broad range of who you are.
• Know what’s important to you. Decide what kind of person you're looking for! If you don't know what you want and what's improtant to you, you won't be able to find him/her.
• Under 10 percent of communication is verbal. For every thought you have, there's a physiological reaction. Become aware of the signals you are sending out. Desperation, for example, comes through in non-verbal communication. Recognize that you don't have to be in a relationship to be whole. It is better to be happy alone than sick with someone else.

Just remeber the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself. Don't put pressure on yourself. You don't have to be married. It's not required.