Would You Like To Be A Date Magnet?

Recently, I overheard a group of attractive women talking about how they hadn’t been asked out on a date in months. This got me thinking about how this could be. As I continued to observe these ladies I noticed their attitude was one of “do not approach us!” Yikes!

If you walk into any bookstore and pick up any random title on interpersonal communication, the majority of the books will simply remind you to "always be approachable."

And it’s soooo true! You can’t approach, or be approached by other people unless you have the right attitude.

So, what you’re about to read is a collection of positive, attitude building affirmations developed by Scott Ginsberg, author of “Stick Your Self Out There’ that will help you self-talk your way to being an approachable date magnet.

The Approachability Affirmation

1. I am an approachable. I can both approach – and be approached by someone I am interested in.
2. I choose to maintain an approachable attitude. I believe that every encounter is one in which I can learn from.
3. I feel relaxed. When I engage with others they are put at ease and feel comfortable when talking with me.
4. I am confident. When I walk into a room, my smile, body language and appearance project happiness, enthusiasm and joy. I’m sure that wherever I go, I will meet new, cool people; I will learn new, cool stuff; and others will be glad they encountered me.
5. I am a great conversationalist. I ask intriguing, creative, thought provoking questions that give people permission to open up. I am skilled at starting, sustaining, transitioning and exiting conversations.
6. I am an even greater listener. I listen twice as much as I talk. I’m curious, not judgmental.
7. I am attractive. The opposite sex is magnetized to me because of my superior attitude, ability to make them smile and willingness to assure that they feel comfortable.
8. Shyness is not a problem for me. No matter what my friends, parents, teachers or the media say, I can easily and comfortably engage with others over the phone, via email or in person without apprehension.
9. I have learned to recognize that fear is outweighed by benefit. Although stepping out of my comfort zone might be tough at first, it’s always worth it in the end. And even if I look like an idiot; I know that it’s no big deal, and that I’m better because of it.

LET ME RECOMMEND THIS... I challenge you to read these to yourself every morning for a month. Just try it. See what happens. When you’re done to let me know if you’ve landed a date.

Visualize Your Ideal Relationship

If you’re looking for love in 2010, why not try visualizing your ideal relationship! Florence Scovel Shinn said, "Man can only receive what he sees himself receiving.” Think about that. You can do it! The answer lies with the power of visualization. Visualization is a technique used by everyone whether they are conscious of it or not. As a child, dressing up as a nurse, a school teacher or a doctor was a physical way of visualizing your future. The brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and fantasy. When you visualize something, your brain goes to work full time to achieve what it has seen. It makes the future seem clearer and it tells your brain that you can have it --because you've seen yourself have it successfully before. So how does it work? Visualization focuses on a dominant thought. Whenever you think of something, you create this energy that in turn attracts similar energies to you. Everything in your life, and every dream, started by a single thought. The more you focus on that thought, the more it will come true for you and create your new reality. But be aware that visualization works positively and negatively. This is why negative people always experience problems in their lives and relationships. This is where they visualize and focus their energy and they reap what they sow. The thoughts that you focus on are the ones that will eventually become your reality—choose wisely. Here are a few things you can do to hone your visualization skills:

1. Create mental pictures of your ideal relationship as if you have already achieved it. The most important part is to see things as vividly and in as much detail as you possibly can. Also remember that the more frequently the technique is practiced, the more vivid the visualizations will be and the more effective they can become.
2. What you see is what you get. Create a Vision Board Collage of images and words that represents your vision of your ideal mate. Look at your Vision Board daily to connect your heart and mind with your hearts’ desire.
3. Affirmations. It is difficult if not impossible to visualize an excellent relationship if your self talk is negative. The mind will believe what you tell it. It is important to combine visualization exercises with positive affirmations.

"Visualization may be the most underutilized success tool that you possess" claims Jack Canfield. I challenge you today to stop limiting yourself and look beyond the horizon of your mind. Focus on your desires of your ideal relationship and develop your ability to go beyond what your mind can currently envision. Do you use visualization? How is it working for you?